Dear
I'm going to tell you the TRUTH (because I am a truth-teller)...
The reason you are still on this weight-loss train, years, decades later, the reason that you are fighting with your body and your health, with ageing poorly, is because there has been no real change.
You are in a 'diet mentality', a 'weight loss mentality' that will never support you getting the results that you want and so much deserve.
See, it's not about the macro's, the calories, the food plan...these are all just tools to support you to get there, intellectual tools that we amass over the years.
It's about your thinking, your beliefs, your self sabotage, your 'set point' in your inner conditioning...your patterns of thought.
And this is not something you can shift on your own. Why? Because we cannot be subjective with ourselves.
Case in point: you can't tickle yourself. Your body and brain knows it's you doing the tickling. It is not objective.
As a Life and Wellness coach, my higher learning has come from some of the best minds in the business. I have sought them out, learned, paid handsomely for their lessons (I never chintz out on my own learning, because it is vitally important to me, my life, my family, my clients) and have been in this 'personal development' / mindset shit for 30+ years.
Why? Because I got curious. I asked higher level questions...why DO humans do what they do? What's really at work here when we don't get to where we want to get to, in our health, finances, careers, relationships...
It's all an inside job. Full stop.
So when I coach a client, it is from the roots of it, their Self Identity, their belief system. Because that is the chink in the chain. Always.
And the beautiful part is that when this levels up, when we get rid of the mind trash and begin to be guided to the bigger picture, to recognize we are not our thoughts or behaviours, we have thoughts and behaviours (that can change), our perspective shifts, our understanding of the real workings shifts, and we being to almost laugh at the thought that we have been living in that self imposed cage for years. Perhaps a lifetime.
This can't be done on our own. Trust me. I tried for years.
I too was stuck in the 'well, I can do it on my own, I know what I know and I know me, and I've read a ton of books.'
It doesn't work that way. We need outside council, someone who can open that door and walk us through it, fresh, unencumbered with the years of shitty stuff, lousy thoughts that we used to drag with us, and now we know how to let it go....
That's the part I love...when we get past the 'I know what to do but I'm not doing it' thing that always comes out (and I assure her that she doesn't know, or she would be doing it...it's beyond the scope of most people's understanding, because it's not what you've been schooled in, really), when she can surrender to the process and know that she will start feeling way better, not worse, because she will be clearing out the mind trash, she begins to feel
lighter, hopeful, confident, connected again...
The dots begin to realign themselves, and she moves into her full Empowered Woman energy (out of the damp, heavy, child and mother energy, away from the Perfectionist, the Busy Bee, the People Pleaser), and she begins to rise up....!
And that is when the magic begins...the weight begins to melt off, the joy begins to flow in, she no longer reaches for a hopeless diet, she honours her cells, her body, and she wants to feed it well, she doesn't check out with food, she doesn't binge, she stays on track because her body and mind are in homeostasis (balance), and they are working together, for the first time in perhaps years...
She begins to feel self love instead of self loathing...
She begins to see how she is not her past, her failures, but they were stepping stones to this moment, when all change is now happening..
She begins to feel confident, energized, and excited about life again (which she didn't feel good about for a very, very long time).
She is meeting herself for the first time in years, who She really is, her Greatness, her Awesomeness, and she thinks she is pretty cool.
She has greater intimacy with her partner (rather than shirking away, when he reaches out to her in the middle of the night, because she doesn't want to be touched).
She is present with her kids, her work, her friends, because for the first time in years, her brain isn't filled with the endless thoughts of food, excess weight, ageing, body challenges...'what will I wear, my clothes don't fit...what will I eat when we go out...will I be able to lose xx lbs before our holiday'.
She is letting go and surrendering at the same time, of all things inconsequential, but that she carried around with her for so many years...
And she thought this was just about the weight....
To live as a Master means mastering your body and mastering your life, yes, but it means daring to step in and claim your life again, because for most of us, it slipped away at some point, and while we're not sure how it happened, or when, it has set us on a path of regrets, resentments, fear, sadness, and giving up.
Never, ever give up. It's a motto I have written on my office wall, something I have learned over this challenging life I have lived, and that remains the staple of everything I do.
I turned it around. I didn't give up on myself. I wanted to 1000 times, but I knew I was here for bigger and better things. I needed to find that magic. I needed to push that REFRESH button.
Do so now, today, before more time escapes you.
Because what I know is that the longer the time lapses, the more we can fall into obscurity, into 'it's not so bad', where we begin to normalize the suffering, feel the stagnation, and the body and our health follow suit. Because the mind, the spirit and the body are intricately woven together into the fabric of you.
Let's remake that fabric. Let's create a beautiful patchwork of all things important - self worth, self love, happiness, joy, ease, freedom, health, healing, fortitude, inspiration, commitment..
These are the values that I instill in women. I don't put them there. They are already there, they've just been lost in this drama called life...and we bring them forward, like old friends being reacquainted again for the first time in perhaps years.
It's time ladies.....
Let's chat. It's what I love to do most! Choose a time and let's get into what's really holding you back and free it up!
XO!
I teach women over 40 a progressive and sustainable way to lose unwanted pounds, embrace ageing, reclaim our health and look and feel
amazing!...and stay on track no matter what life throws at us! www.warriorwomanfitness.com
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