How many summers do you have left to enjoy your life?
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This is what I often ask women who are wanting to change the course of ageing, to lose the weight, to transform their health and bodies, to reclaim their physical, mental and spiritual health...
...they begin to run back to their comfort zone.
It can happen even with the best intentions to change.
Because fear is a very real thing in this thing called change, even if where we are moving out from (our comfort zone) is unhealthy and keeping us stuck, depressed, angry and desperate, living a life that we cannot stand anymore.
There is comfort in the known, even when it is unhealthy.
This is where women often 'get used to' the physical and emotional pain they are in, they normalize it, and although they wish to change, the fear of moving forward into the unknown scares them, and this fear builds...so they start finding excuses to not change...it's the money issue, or the time issue...'just not right now, I'll get back to you", or 'we have holidays coming up, can I get back to you when we get back from our holiday?'
And the strange thing is, the closer we can get a woman into understanding all that she has been through, and all that needs to change to live in a body and life that she adores, to dare to dream all that she is reaching for....
....she contracts back into herself, and returns to her old familiar, albeit unhealthy, unfulfilled life.
Perhaps this has happened to you before?
So what's really going on here?
A few things, but mainly, it's Fear.
It can be a fear of truly taking responsibility for her health and ageing. Or fear of failure, even fear of success.
Or fear of challenging or outgrowing a relationship, fear of being reprimanded for daring to challenge the status quo.
It can even be fear of one's own power, if she has been living powerless for many years.
It's never about the money or the time or the coaching requirements. Those are just defense mechanisms, a way out, a legal and accepted way out of change, and quick way back to the 'old normal'.
But here's the deal: you cannot wait for courage to show up before you change. We build courage (and all our inner muscles) when we have to apply them, not before.
And what's going on inside, with your uneasiness, your dullness perhaps, and what's going on outside, in your body and your health, well, it won't fix itself.
It won't fix itself...
So when you feel uncomfortable when you reach for change, when you take that class, that coaching call, that program...expect to be uncomfortable...that means your moving toward change!
It is part of the growth process. We all feel it when we are embarking on change, and the bigger the change, or the longer we've been 'stuck' the greater the fear can be.
F.E.A.R. - Face Everything and Rise....
I can even have a woman on the brink of change, as we build a vision of what is possible for her body, her health, her weight and her life. Building the possibilities of what lies ahead is very powerful, but this is the crunch point...where I can sense alot of women shuffling their feet...energetically speaking.
And sometimes the deflections show up in the strangest of places, with the fear attaching itself to a 'reason' for not stepping in...to put the blame on an acceptable reason, to take the pressure off of having to commit. It's funny, this thing called human nature.
One can't invest the time or money or commit, because, well,.. 'my life is busy," "I can't make the time", "I am going on holidays for a month", or "I have to pay the mortgage or car payment"...umm, we all have these.
We all have life stuff, but as we say in coaching, 'The committed will always find a way." Always.
But what this speaks to is the fact that the woman prefers her comfort zone, even when she is at the depths of depression, or out-of-control eating, or lack of motivation, energy or desire to do anything to move her towards living a fuller life, with potential, health and self love.
Self love...that's the biggie. When we live from a place of self love, or even if we can just grab a hold of it for a fleeting minute, our heart can speak to us, and we will dive into the abyss of change, simply because We are Worth It.
And you are too. We all are.
So when a woman turns her back on the gift of change, the very change that she has been looking for her whole life, and the Universe provided her with the way out because she asked, it is like a slap in the face of the Universe, the very Universe that is there to support and nurture you into your best body and life, because that's why it's there.
That's why we are here...to live the best life.
So ask yourself, how many summers do you have left on this planet to enjoy your health, your body, your family, your spirit and your soul? How do you want to depart this planet? What legacy do you want to leave behind?
How can you make yourself proud, really proud of who you are and all that you took on, because you wanted it so badly, nothing would stand in your way?
And then decide if you are willing to live where you are right now, for even one more second, let alone another summer...
I was at this place several times in my life, desperate and hating my body, my health, my circumstance, my life.
And when I hit rock bottom (which I thought I had hit several times before, but it just kept getting worse), I decided I would no longer live in ill health, shame, fear and regret. I was made for more, and it wasn't going to fix itself. I had to step in, name it and claim it.
I didn't want to go through any more summers having to regret anything else. I didn't want to let myself down, I had done that too many times before.
I know what that feels like. And it just gets bigger, it gets worse, until you are at the bottom, swimming in shame, guilt, and anger.
This is NOT an empowered way to live. It sucks your soul. It trashes your spirit.
I wanted to make myself proud. And in all honesty, I wanted others to see how I changed my circumstances, my life.
I wanted to walk into a room and have everyone go, 'wow, look at her. She survived. She made something of herself.'
And oh yeah, I wanted them to see how I looked and felt...'and she looks great, too!'
I changed my belief system. I changed my priorities. I changed my life, my foods, and the people I hung with. I had to. My life depended on it.
Then I went searching, and I found the coaches, the mentors, the teachers, the leaders who were living as I wanted to live, and I invested in them. I rarely had the money or time or even energy to devote to it, but that was secondary to my cause. I knew I had to truly take this life thing seriously, and that I needed to do all that I could do, because the chips were down.
And when the chips are down, well, that's when it really matters. And that is when the real commitment shows up, because ALL EXITS have been CLOSED OFF.
Close off your exits ladies. Your exits are what is keeping you stuck, and giving you excuses for NOT stepping in. Because as we age, the 'stuckness' only gets deeper, and despondency and depression can deepen.
The old beliefs and habits get further away from our consciousness, until we lose sight of what we were wanting to change anyway, and we just accept where we are, and think, as our summers close in, with less and less of them ahead of us now...'is this all there is?'
Dare to step out of your comfort zone ladies. Ask the Universe for help...that someone, that phone call, that program (and you know when that arrives...you feel it in your bones! I know I do!)
And when the Universe delivers, thank her for the opportunity and dive in, with whomever or whatever you were gifted with. Because you are meant to learn and grow, to prosper and to live healthy, alive, energized, empowered and feeling on top of the world!
I call this the Goddess Reboot. It's a radical SHIFT in how you see your self, your world, and those around you. It's the best part of what I teach!
From this place, nothing can sway you. Nothing.
Living healthy, whole, and joyful is your God Given right.
And living in a body that you build with health and healing each and every day...that is the Victory.
And you need to believe this is possible for you too. Because it is.
It's in your lovely hands…..
- coach Karen
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