The weight is not the problem. It's a symptom...
When I offer this up to clients, they are a bit confused. Rightly so.
Excess weight IS a problem. It is uncomfortable, it can bring a whole list of health issues: high blood sugars and blood pressure, joint and pain issues, sleep issues (apnea), mobility issues.
And the ripple effect is there too: it's not just affecting you, it affects your partner too (although most partners will say 'I love you the way you are'. God bless them. BUT we still want change for US. Intimacy can be eroded, we have less energy with our kids, our clothes don't fit (or we don't wear what we want because of our size).
We don't want to be in pictures, we might even begin to lessen our social outings, so our circle becomes smaller, we isolate ourselves more.
So is it just food? Just lack of movement? Part of ageing?
No. It's what is under the surface that needs to be tended to. The habits which are supported by a belief system that is NOT in alignment with our goals.
If your goal is to lose 50 pounds, or to regain your health, but the underlying whispers are 'you can't do it. You'll fail again. You're not worthy. Who are you to be thin and healthy and sexy? That's not you, not really. Just stay where you are. It's comfortable here. NO need to change. Besides, it'll be hard. You won't have any fun anymore.'
Let me give you an example.
Years ago, I had a client that could never get below 150 lbs. She would be able to lose the top 15 pounds, but that 150 mark, well, she sabotaged herself.
We had to get underneath the workout program and the food program. It took awhile, but what ended up being the culprit was her sense of self, her 'installed belief' that she wasn't capable of, or worthy of, looking like those other slim, athletic women in the gym.
Why? Because of her teen years, where her mother was a bit of a bad ass, and as she rebelled (like any teen), her mother pushed back HARD. She insisted she straighten up, go to university, become a doctor. For her mother, her value system was 'the more education you have, the better you are', part status, part comfort zone for mom, and your body or your 'looks' were superficial.
We never did get to check in to see maybe her mother had competition with others in the physical field as a threat, or education and status were more important....perhaps so. Maybe her mom was conditioned this way from her own parents, because she came from a long line of
educated women, doctors and lawyers also. So the message that was downloaded and installed in her operating system was that the best way to 'compete', to thrive, was intellectually.
So yes, this woman went on to become a doctor, and a very good one. But her 'story' that was downloaded from her mother decades before, and that she adopted into her belief system, and that caused her to 'complied' as a teen, to stop the frivolity of the gym and 'get real', and put her energy toward higher education and her doctorate, were out of alignment now, with her desire to get lean, shapely and strong. (In my view, mom needed to do a brain rewiring
too).
So once we got to the roots of my client's fall away at 150 pounds, not being able to edge lower, there was a relief for her, in knowing that it wasn't because she was failing, or wasn't doing enough training / cardio / food prep. Her belief system, which is 95% unconscious, was running the show.
The is the real issue with 95% of all people who crash and burn on their healthy living programs (it's all starting to show now, in mid February...people are coming up from the ashes with their Jan 1 resolutions and best intentions all a-crumble.
And that's human nature too...to let's-start-again-it's-a-new-year push, that few ever sustain, because the food and formulas, the macros and calories, the fasting or keto or pre and post workout thingies are just on the surface. Yes, they matter, and women over 40 need variables on these, but the real deal is what is unseen: your beliefs, patterns and conditioning.
It's truly fascinating. And freeing for the client. Then we need to create an expanded self identity and a kick ass belief system that is true for them, punting the old to the curb (once we get to it, it can take time because the psyche does NOT want to let go of its identity, no matter how unhealthy it is making us. It sees SURVIVAL as more important) and living, moving, eating,
and thinking from what I call the 30,000' view.
THIS is where sustainability and longevity in the game must be rooted in....not where you are living NOW in your head, but what is possible.
It's not about lack of motivation or willpower or commitment. Most women already have those values intact. We've raised kids, managed a career, carried a household, paid the bills. We paid for an education, manage a stressful life, take care of our parents. We ARE already committed, disciplined, motivated.
The self sabotaging forces are unconscious, but there is a way to get to them, uproot then, and insert a fresh wiring of the brain.
And that's what we do in our programs, for every woman that comes in. It is a MUST for body AND life success.
Book a call. We'll chat. I can show you how it's done. I can highlight what is really holding you back, and craft a strategy to get you to the other side, living light, healthy and FREE of all the noise in your head.
It may be the first taste of freedom you have ever felt for a very long time...or perhaps forever.
