Out of the ashes come great lessons on life.....

We are all challenged in this life, and what I know is that in those dark days we endure, there can be richness in the lessons that it holds.

I am a fitness gal, yes. But outside of the training, the food, coaching clients on losing weight and staying healthy and strong is a ton of heartache.

It lays within me, each and every day as I watch my young son traverse the most challenging life in a body that simply does not work.

This has transformed me in ways unimaginable. Hard yes, but it opened me up to a unique way of living and seeing the world. It had to be this way...

My coaching has changed. I work with TOUGH cases...women who have tried for years to get lean, healthy, but whose best desires slip away from them year after year. 

In essense, it's not about the calories or the macro's. They have lost themselves in the big swallow of life. They feel frustreated, scared, confused, and they are ageing quickly, and they can't seem to turn things around. 

They blame their body, ageing, time, hormones....but it's not any of those things. Sure, they may account for a small percentage of their body's dismissal at staying strong, lean and healthy. For these women, it goes much deeper...

They are in a kind of mid life crisis, and their body is reacting to this roadblock that has crept into their being, this new phase and new body that they don't recognize.

I know this feeling of not understanding life, my future...my body also took the brunt of my reckless life that seemed to have no real joy or purpose anymore.

When my son was diagnosed, I lost myself for years. Depression, panic attacks, fibromyalgia, chronic fatigue...thoughts of suicide, alcohol.....

Like many women at the threshold of sudden change and challenge, I went through that Dark Night of the Soul. 

I didn't know how I would survive in the face of my son's terminal illness. I lost faith. I lost my health. I lost all purpose. I lost my marriage...I lost my mental health.

My body ached everywhere. I was constantly getting sick. I couldn't sleep. I ate whatever made it into my mouth, carelessly, without consideration.

I am thankful for that dark time, because as I moved through and came out the other side years later, I created a shift in perspective and an understanding of the deeper powers within this World and beyond. And THAT was when the real stuff came up.

And that was when my approach to lifelong health and fitness, living and ageing well, in flow and ease, was born. Cut from a very different cloth than the 'group-think' that is out there, the mainstream pundits that tout formulas, the perfect workout, the perfect macros....

Us Warrior Women are way more complicated than this...and this is why most 40+ women are not being served. Their trainers and coaches have no friggin' idea what is really at work here, in women in their 40's, 50's, 60's and beyond.

It took a Tsunami for me to listen, to truly listen, but that's sometimes how it goes.

So know that whatever you are going through, you too can survive. BUT, we must let go of what we think we know, the deep need to 'control' and all those teachings us women have gathered along the way and throw them to the curb...

The Perfectionist, People Pleaser, Fixer, Guilty One, Lone Wolf, Rebel....

Merely masks we wear, similar to the money we earn, the career we have, the car we drive, the person we marry....masks really....

The Real Us is within those layers...and THAT is what my coaching approach is all about.

If we don't go 'under the hood', we will continue to carry these personas and their deflecting ways with us for life. They don't just 'go away'. We can't ignore them, and they come up all the time...food bingeing, lack of motivation, ageing dilemmas, aches and pains, wobbly relationships, hating our jobs etc etc.

So when women ask 'what makes your approach to Body Transformation', I say, oh heck...do you have 2 hours?

Karen

PS Blessings to all of you who donated to my son's GoFund me...we appreciate each and every one of you. The Fund will stay open as we continue on this quest to support our son on his next trip, safely...... XO Yes, I'd like to Donate!